#1 Obstacle to Having What You Truly Want and One Way to Overcome It
#1 Obstacle to Having What You Truly Want and
One Way to Overcome It
What is something that you really, truly want?
Pause for a moment to answer that for yourself.
Another coach that I respect recently posted on her social media account the statement: “There is nothing that you truly want that you can’t have.”
In other words, you can have anything that you truly want.
Is that true?
Think about that. Do you believe it?
One commenter shared in response to the post that she wants to spend the rest of her life with her husband, but he tragically died.
Seeing something like that, our minds can quickly and easily then jump to conclusions.
Within mere seconds, you might think of what it is that you truly want, wanting to believe you can have it, but also a little fearful that you won’t, your mind might say: “Her husband died, she can’t have what she wants. THEREFORE, it’s not possible to always have what you truly want. THEREFORE, I can’t always have what I truly want.”
The problem is that often the connections and conclusions that your mind makes, simply are not true.
Here’s the #1 thing holding you back from having what you truly want: buying into F.E.A.R.
False Evidence Appearing Real.
Our brains, the efficient machines that they are, often use “evidence” to lead us to believe what APPEARS to be real, but isn’t, which stops us from taking actions.
Here’s a strategy I promised.
When you want something, truly want something, get clear about what it is that you truly want and then allow that to come to you however it might.
How?
1. Get clear about what it is you TRULY want by doing some investigation work.
As a kid, Nancy Drew was one of my heros. I loved reading those books and wanted to be just like her. “Secret of the Old Clock” anyone? A classic!
INVESTIGATE: WHY do you want that?
BETTER QUESTION: What would having this do for me and how would that help me to feel?
For this woman who tragically lost her husband, her true want is much deeper than just being with her husband. Being with him means something to her.
In other words: What would being with him mean to her? Give her? Provide for her?
I’ve found for both myself and my clients, that usually when we think we want something, it’s because deep down, we believe it will make us feel a certain way.
Think about what you said that you truly want. Is it to have a million dollars? A loving relationship? A dream job? To fit into your pre-pregnancy jeans? To live in a beautiful home or in a specific location?
What would having that do for you and how would that help you feel?
- Allow what you truly want to come to you however it might.
With our limited view and limited understanding, we often assume that what we say we want is in fact what we truly want. Usually, it’s not.
In reality, it’s really just ONE WAY that you have thought of, that you think will get you what you want to FEEL (happy, safe, secure, peace, loved, not alone, etc.)
You and your wants are not that superficial, my friend.
You and the things you truly want are much deeper. Whether you realize it or not.
There’s more than one way to think about something and more than one way to get it.
The secret is to not allow just one thing to be the only way to have what it is that you truly want.
Think about the answer your mind came up with about how to get what you want. Think about what having that will help you to feel. Now ask yourself: “What ELSE might help me to experience that?
When you do that, you’ll discover there are multiple ways of HOW to have what it is you TRULY want. Keep asking. Think of it like you’re looking for gold. It’s not usually at the surface. You have to dig a little deeper or sift through the pebbles and dirt.
As humans, we have limited vision and understanding. As a Christian, a scripture I love that has been proven over and over again in my life is Ephesians 3:20: “God is able to do infinitely MORE than we ask or imagine.”
Ask. Seek. Knock. Allow.
Stop allowing false evidence appearing real to block you from what you want.
Because you can always have what it is that you TRULY want when you get clear about what that is, and allow it to come however it might.
What do you TRULY want?
If you’d be interested in a complimentary coaching session to help you get it, reach out to me. I’d be happy to connect with you and help you get started in making your dreams your reality.
